Always looked at the stars at night, all alone, wishing I could have someone to share this spectacular moment with..the loneliness killed me slowly inside, couples madly in love all around me, tales and stories of love rent the atmosphere..doing nothing but etching the solitude into the deepest corners of my heart...Nonetheless, I am my own best company, I make me mad, I put a smile on my face, I tell myself what few are too proud or scared to admit to themselves,,that I am beautiful and worth more than material things or the wealth of this world..
I also look around and see hearts breaking all over, the wasted tears spilled over an illusion called love;or is it lust? This makes me glad with the person I am and proud of the great relationship I've got with myself!
Until the day am gonna find my knight in shining armor, the one who'll take the away the misery carved so deep in my soul and put a smile on my round shapely face,the one who'll make me proud to be in his life, the one who'll treat me like such a precious queen till everyone turns green with envy; until the day I meet my prince, I'm gonna wait and have a blast with the three best people in my life: me, myself and I!!!
Friday, 2 March 2012
Sunday, 25 December 2011
Let loose!
...melancholics like myself and phlegs tend to be the most frequent victims of this phenomenon. Sometimes we hold onto pain and carry the weight of the world when we can't even carry our own. However,as I have come to learn the hard way, life sometimes gets to the point where we've got to think about self first and consider our own feelings and needs instead of rushing to be superman to everyone else.
Once in a while, we've got to let loose, have fun and have no guilt or regrets about it!
So if you're like me, constantly thinking about the welfare of others and what they think, I greatly applaud you for that. Nevertheless, it is time to shelve them aside and do what makes YOU happy, and have fun while at it. After all, you only get one chance to live, so why not make the best of it??!!
Happy Holidays!
Once in a while, we've got to let loose, have fun and have no guilt or regrets about it!
So if you're like me, constantly thinking about the welfare of others and what they think, I greatly applaud you for that. Nevertheless, it is time to shelve them aside and do what makes YOU happy, and have fun while at it. After all, you only get one chance to live, so why not make the best of it??!!
Happy Holidays!
Thursday, 22 December 2011
..Of dating advice n all...
''10 ways to know if he loves you'', ''7 signs to tell if he's cheating'', ''5surefire ways to re-ignite your love life...'' these are just but some of the titles of columns and articles that more often than not grace our dailies and media today, and claim to preach the gospel truth about love, life and our romantic partners...But really, should we peg our worldviews on matters of the heart and tie our actions to the words of ordinary human beings like ourselves, claiming to have the answers to all our deepest intimate issues?
I recently came across a relationship blog by a lady named Rori Raye and her articles were rather catchy and eyecandy for me..so I subscribed to her emailing service, whereby she'd give advice and tips on love, relationships and men. They were kinda cute but at some point became incessant and all they did was fill my inbox, moreso because they were full of sentiments based on lone experiences she'd undergone. However, what was most annoying was that at the end of each email, there was a link to obtain a video or e-book from this self-proclaimed relationship expert, of course at a very dear fee!
This goes without saying that some unscrupulous people have identified a need in society and are milking tonnes of money out of lonely, confused and broken hearts desperately in need of direction and advice (though all that some need is a thorough beating to ingrain sense into them!)
I am an avid reader of anything that appeals to my interests and a hopeless romantic at that, so anything saucy and worth reading will not glide by unnoticed. However over time, I have come to discover that we are more powerful and smarter than we actually deem ourselves to be; we hold the answers to questions and problems which we think Dr. Love can solve for us, yet we've got it all within us. You don't need some local or foreign stranger you know nothing about, to tell you how to please your man and find out what he really wants..all you simply need to do is be keen, listen with your eyes, ears and heart; and if need be, ask him. It doesn't take a rocket scientist to figure out the fact that if he spends a substantial amount of his time watching soccer, then he loves it! If he's got a fetish for electronics then that could be a potential birthday gift (incase you're stuck in a rut not knowing what 2 buy).
However, the most universal of them all is food! Just watch him and find out what his favourite meal is and it would be rather smart n' cute to perfect your culinary skills and fix him one sweet, savvy and scrumptious meal he'll never forget and you'll have him wrapped all around your little finger in the blink of eye!!
Bottomline is, we shouldn't let strangers define our love-lives and relationships by telling us the 'whats' and 'what-nots.' Just because Tyra Banks doesn't think you should make the first move after an argument doesn't mean it has to be so for you. Your relationship is what you and your sweetheart make it, and the more liberated and sincere you are with each other, the more you'll enjoy it; without feeling indebted or obligated to some writer somewhere just because you did not follow their '8-step rule to a happy n successful relationship'!!!
~When you stop chasing the wrong things, you give the right ones a chance to catch you~
I recently came across a relationship blog by a lady named Rori Raye and her articles were rather catchy and eyecandy for me..so I subscribed to her emailing service, whereby she'd give advice and tips on love, relationships and men. They were kinda cute but at some point became incessant and all they did was fill my inbox, moreso because they were full of sentiments based on lone experiences she'd undergone. However, what was most annoying was that at the end of each email, there was a link to obtain a video or e-book from this self-proclaimed relationship expert, of course at a very dear fee!
This goes without saying that some unscrupulous people have identified a need in society and are milking tonnes of money out of lonely, confused and broken hearts desperately in need of direction and advice (though all that some need is a thorough beating to ingrain sense into them!)
I am an avid reader of anything that appeals to my interests and a hopeless romantic at that, so anything saucy and worth reading will not glide by unnoticed. However over time, I have come to discover that we are more powerful and smarter than we actually deem ourselves to be; we hold the answers to questions and problems which we think Dr. Love can solve for us, yet we've got it all within us. You don't need some local or foreign stranger you know nothing about, to tell you how to please your man and find out what he really wants..all you simply need to do is be keen, listen with your eyes, ears and heart; and if need be, ask him. It doesn't take a rocket scientist to figure out the fact that if he spends a substantial amount of his time watching soccer, then he loves it! If he's got a fetish for electronics then that could be a potential birthday gift (incase you're stuck in a rut not knowing what 2 buy).
However, the most universal of them all is food! Just watch him and find out what his favourite meal is and it would be rather smart n' cute to perfect your culinary skills and fix him one sweet, savvy and scrumptious meal he'll never forget and you'll have him wrapped all around your little finger in the blink of eye!!
Bottomline is, we shouldn't let strangers define our love-lives and relationships by telling us the 'whats' and 'what-nots.' Just because Tyra Banks doesn't think you should make the first move after an argument doesn't mean it has to be so for you. Your relationship is what you and your sweetheart make it, and the more liberated and sincere you are with each other, the more you'll enjoy it; without feeling indebted or obligated to some writer somewhere just because you did not follow their '8-step rule to a happy n successful relationship'!!!
~When you stop chasing the wrong things, you give the right ones a chance to catch you~
Friday, 11 November 2011
...It's all lies...
I doubt if there is anyone in the world who can stomach the sick feeling of knowing that those they love, as well as those who don't love them can actually lie to them in their faces; unless of course it's the all too cliche "you've lost weight" kind of statements...Some may think that stretching then truth or telling a half-truth isn't cheating, but ethically-speaking it is a plain lie, better known as a "lie by omission". There are things we would rather avoid and take the easy way out of, instead of confronting head-on and bearing the bitter and painful consequences. The truth hurts, but it will also set you free- free from guilt, a burdened conscience and regret. Lies break trust, which could take years to build but only seconds to destroy. Trust is a fundamental building block of any relationship, friendship or partnership which is mainly shaken by lies and words that do not correspond with the ethics of truth.
Sometime ago, a friend once told me that "A true friend is one who tells you your breath stinks" (when it actually does)!!! I burst out laughing but when I came to sit down and later think about it, it made so much sense to me and made me begin questioning if I really was a friend indeed... How many times do we notice faults in those we love yet keep quiet about it? Now before I am discredited for being politically incorrect, no one is perfect and we all have shortcomings. However, there are some things about us that can and should be changed. These include disregard for rules of etiquette, improper use of language and habits that are improper such as gossip and disrespect for others. When we do note these negative traits in those we love, we should take it upon ourselves to bring it to light in their presence because it is for their own good. They may not like hearing these words and others may feel that they are above reproach, but in the long run, they will come to thank you for it someday.
Bottom line is, there is no need to lie, especially to save yourself or fix a wanting situation. The best approach would be to speak out whatever truth that needs to be spoken and bear the brunt, come what may. The rewards are a clean conscience, a pure heart, a guiltless spirit and widespread credibility and respect for exuding integrity.
Sometime ago, a friend once told me that "A true friend is one who tells you your breath stinks" (when it actually does)!!! I burst out laughing but when I came to sit down and later think about it, it made so much sense to me and made me begin questioning if I really was a friend indeed... How many times do we notice faults in those we love yet keep quiet about it? Now before I am discredited for being politically incorrect, no one is perfect and we all have shortcomings. However, there are some things about us that can and should be changed. These include disregard for rules of etiquette, improper use of language and habits that are improper such as gossip and disrespect for others. When we do note these negative traits in those we love, we should take it upon ourselves to bring it to light in their presence because it is for their own good. They may not like hearing these words and others may feel that they are above reproach, but in the long run, they will come to thank you for it someday.
Bottom line is, there is no need to lie, especially to save yourself or fix a wanting situation. The best approach would be to speak out whatever truth that needs to be spoken and bear the brunt, come what may. The rewards are a clean conscience, a pure heart, a guiltless spirit and widespread credibility and respect for exuding integrity.
Monday, 24 October 2011
A late night note to my love...
My love,
As I write this, it's three in the morning and I'm still wide awake. You may think I'm insomniac but I know the real reason is that I am afraid to fall asleep because reality is finally better than my dreams- my reality and every moment I spend with you...
But that's besides the point..all I simply want to do is express the inner joy bubbling out of me into simple words. You see, ever since you walked into my life, it has never been the same. You give me a reason to smile every time I think of you because I know deep in my heart that I have someone special and worthwhile to share all my experiences with- bitter or sweet. My heart is at rest now that it's found peace, joy and above all love-in you.
I used to look around and see all these beautiful gorgeous skinny ladies strutting their stuff in the latest Guccis, Louis Vuittons and Versace's and my mind would question my heart; would you see all that, be swayed and start making mental comparisons with your otherwise voluptuous and modest sweetheart? However, my heart told me that you were mine and I was yours and nothing was ever going to change that. You reiterated this sentiment by reminding me that you loved every square millimeter of my being- my character, intelligence, "different" sense of humor, beauty and above all my heart...when you slowly whispered these words to me, I broke down and burst into torrents of tears- happy tears of joy.
Now as sleep finally begins to set in, I can't help but think that I am the luckiest and most blessed lady who ever walked planet earth, simply because I have you. Your humility, honesty, simplicity and of course amazing looks and gorgeous physique all captivated my heart. Many told me that there were many fish in the sea; that I shouldn't settle for the first that came swimming to my shore but I knew better...even regardless of those fish, there are sharks, piranhas and poisonous creatures out to kill me and take advantage of yours truly...
Finally, before I settle into my world of slumber, I just want you to know that with every heartbeat of mine and every breath I take, you are the echo that responds closely and harmoniously, the reason for my joy, smile and peace.
In short, I love you and YOU, my love, are the best thing that's ever happened to me.
Your loving Princess :)
As I write this, it's three in the morning and I'm still wide awake. You may think I'm insomniac but I know the real reason is that I am afraid to fall asleep because reality is finally better than my dreams- my reality and every moment I spend with you...
But that's besides the point..all I simply want to do is express the inner joy bubbling out of me into simple words. You see, ever since you walked into my life, it has never been the same. You give me a reason to smile every time I think of you because I know deep in my heart that I have someone special and worthwhile to share all my experiences with- bitter or sweet. My heart is at rest now that it's found peace, joy and above all love-in you.
I used to look around and see all these beautiful gorgeous skinny ladies strutting their stuff in the latest Guccis, Louis Vuittons and Versace's and my mind would question my heart; would you see all that, be swayed and start making mental comparisons with your otherwise voluptuous and modest sweetheart? However, my heart told me that you were mine and I was yours and nothing was ever going to change that. You reiterated this sentiment by reminding me that you loved every square millimeter of my being- my character, intelligence, "different" sense of humor, beauty and above all my heart...when you slowly whispered these words to me, I broke down and burst into torrents of tears- happy tears of joy.
Now as sleep finally begins to set in, I can't help but think that I am the luckiest and most blessed lady who ever walked planet earth, simply because I have you. Your humility, honesty, simplicity and of course amazing looks and gorgeous physique all captivated my heart. Many told me that there were many fish in the sea; that I shouldn't settle for the first that came swimming to my shore but I knew better...even regardless of those fish, there are sharks, piranhas and poisonous creatures out to kill me and take advantage of yours truly...
Finally, before I settle into my world of slumber, I just want you to know that with every heartbeat of mine and every breath I take, you are the echo that responds closely and harmoniously, the reason for my joy, smile and peace.
In short, I love you and YOU, my love, are the best thing that's ever happened to me.
Your loving Princess :)
Friday, 14 October 2011
You are beautiful no matter what…
Day in out we wake up, get about our lives, step into the everyday routine of life and eventually get accustomed to it. Sometimes we find ourselves doing so much for other people, being there for everyone, and ensuring that those we love are okay and we do our best to look out for their best interests…it’s pretty noble and commendable and every deserving lady deserves a pat on the back for the role she plays in life.
However, sometimes we get all tangled up in these things, such that we forget to appreciate ourselves, what makes us who we are and ultimately end up lethargic in a dire state of burnout. At this point, the negative voices in our lives start to become louder and real; you don’t see that beautiful girl anymore staring back at you in the mirror; instead, all you see is a face full of zits, a flabby tummy, legs that have stretch marks extending from the north pole to the south, scars that remind you of pain from the past, yet deep down inside, there’s a sleeping beauty waiting to be awakened, to illuminate the world with her presence, beauty and intelligence.
Girls…you’ve got to realize that many times in life, things will not go your way; but you’ve got to leave it all behind. The struggle to survive without losing yourself can be a fight, one that can wear you out and leave you empty and broken. But you’ve got to keep pushing on. Block out the noise, forgive, and most importantly, forgive yourself and the open wounds won’t hurt anymore. It takes strength, inner will and power from within to push you forward and get past the hurt, self-pity and setbacks.
The next time you wake up, look in the mirror and tell the girl staring back at you that she’s beautiful, strong and intelligent…don’t let the mirror lie to you that your acne is what defines you; tell that image in the mirror that you’re a princess, a strongwoman with a stride in her step and the power of healing in her words. Let the imperfections remind you that you are far from perfect; only God is…and that’s the beauty of it all…
When the pain of a broken heart reminds you of your loneliness and bleeding soul, tell that girl in the mirror that you’re going to wait for the wedding ring and God in heaven for sure is writing your love story so don’t fret, don’t let it break you. Don’t wait for a knight in shining “arma(ni)”to come and sweep you off your feet and tell you that you’re beautiful; you might as well turn into a skeleton waiting for that day. Love yourself for who you are, don’t have any apologies about it and those that cannot love you back are foolish to take for granted this amazing gift from God to mankind!!!
Finally, as Deborah Cox puts it, “…don’t let ever let nobody bring you down girl, don’t ever let nobody tear your world apart, look in the mirror and see who you are, beautiful you are…”
So girl, grab that glamorous outfit, wear that sparkling jewelry, kick on those sexy heels and take on the world with a smile on your face and a spring in your step…Because you are beautiful no matter what!!!
I'm back!!!
Have a good read and hope you’ll enjoy. I look forward to your feedback and comments.
Blessings!!
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