I doubt if there is anyone in the world who can stomach the sick feeling of knowing that those they love, as well as those who don't love them can actually lie to them in their faces; unless of course it's the all too cliche "you've lost weight" kind of statements...Some may think that stretching then truth or telling a half-truth isn't cheating, but ethically-speaking it is a plain lie, better known as a "lie by omission". There are things we would rather avoid and take the easy way out of, instead of confronting head-on and bearing the bitter and painful consequences. The truth hurts, but it will also set you free- free from guilt, a burdened conscience and regret. Lies break trust, which could take years to build but only seconds to destroy. Trust is a fundamental building block of any relationship, friendship or partnership which is mainly shaken by lies and words that do not correspond with the ethics of truth.
Sometime ago, a friend once told me that "A true friend is one who tells you your breath stinks" (when it actually does)!!! I burst out laughing but when I came to sit down and later think about it, it made so much sense to me and made me begin questioning if I really was a friend indeed... How many times do we notice faults in those we love yet keep quiet about it? Now before I am discredited for being politically incorrect, no one is perfect and we all have shortcomings. However, there are some things about us that can and should be changed. These include disregard for rules of etiquette, improper use of language and habits that are improper such as gossip and disrespect for others. When we do note these negative traits in those we love, we should take it upon ourselves to bring it to light in their presence because it is for their own good. They may not like hearing these words and others may feel that they are above reproach, but in the long run, they will come to thank you for it someday.
Bottom line is, there is no need to lie, especially to save yourself or fix a wanting situation. The best approach would be to speak out whatever truth that needs to be spoken and bear the brunt, come what may. The rewards are a clean conscience, a pure heart, a guiltless spirit and widespread credibility and respect for exuding integrity.
