So today morning was another one of those dull mornings I woke up feeling bleeh. Whatever that means. My heart was heavy, my mind full of thoughts, fears and questions about life. At that point I knew I needed to hear an uplifting word so I tuned to one of the 3 main Christian radio stations on our airwaves. An ad was being aired, and I thought, "Just chill Rita, a sermon or some gospel song will play next." Another ad aired, and another one. Then a song played for not more than a minute and the presenter came back on air. He began talking about some product, and he went on and on and on. Wait, what station am I listening to to? Sure enough, it was a Christian radio station. It sounded more like a classifieds channel and at that point, I was compelled to listen to Classic 105 all the same. What was the difference anyway? So I tuned to the next station, and this time, the preacher was talking about favour, success and how good things are coming our way. Like he always does. The other one had rock/pop music (which I love by the way!) but I just switched off the radio and went to my playlist instead.
"Therefore go and make disciples of all nations, baptising them in the name of the Father, and of the Son and of the Holy Spirit, and teaching them to obey everything I have commanded you. And surely I am with you always, to the very end of the age."
~Matt. 28:18-19
This is the great commission, the mandate of every believer to spread the word of God and bring more to the kingdom. The rise of churches, ministries and programs and in a variety of platforms is something commendable; a milestone in achieving this great commission given by Christ. Media is one of them, and I'm glad that we have people who've taken this up and have formed broadcast stations to spread the good news. However, my greatest fear is that the great commission mandate has gradually been shelved and things like advertising, now run the show. Literally. But Rita, you may say, what will pay the bills? Surely this house won't pay its own rent and a smile at Kenya Power won't pay my dues. Yes, salaries have to be paid. But why call it a Christian station if more than a half of your show is pegged on marketing this and that? Then you ask, so where will the money come from? Hmmm...without risking sounding like a mere critic hiding behind the confines of my computer screen, I dare say, Christians have money! Yes we do. Look at all the church projects around us. There's almost always a fundraising in every other church, every other Sunday. Look at the beautiful altars we have in our sanctuaries. Look at the way we can afford to buy our preachers some damn expensive cars; wait, look at our own cars and houses. And that is just a drop in the ocean.
(continued...check out the next post for part two)
Thursday, 28 November 2013
Christian Media...Is there anything like that? (Part 2)
I simply marvel at how much the apostles in the early church were able to accomplish, yet they lived such simple lives. I mean, thousands got saved, many others were healed, and there was such a burning passion for Christ. When Jesus sent out his twelve disciples, he told them not to carry anything. No bag, extra tunic or sandals. Now, if some of us ladies were told to leave our handbags behind...guess we would have a problem with that. I know I would! Anyway, let me digress a little, as I already have anyway.
All I am trying to say is that complacency has slowly but surely found it's way into the church and into our hearts as Christians. "Oh, those corrupt politicians?" we say. "Heh, hao ma-pastor wa Seeds of Sin? They will burn in hell," and my favourite, "Hiyo ni kazi ya gava!" >> I am merely echoing some of the most common sentiments I have heard from fellow believers. No wonder people are shying away from the gospel! By the way, I am no religious scholar or saint above and beyond reproach. The one writing this is one who has, at many points been a hypocrite but is simply trying to live right and propagate the word to fellow mankind. As I was saying, the attitude these days, is 'that's not my work.' Self has become the priority these days. Not just in matters spiritual, but in life generally. There's alot of self-help vibe going around. Christians should know better; we have the ultimate helper in the Holy Spirit. He guides us, helps us in our day-to-day struggles and is the best companion ever. So why do we focus on ourselves so much?
Back to the matter at hand. The media that purports to be in place to spread the word of God should stick to that mandate. For instance, there is an Islamic station for instance that is committed to teaching the fundamentals of their faith and engaging faithfuls in exposition and dialogue of issues pertaining their religion. If Muslims embrace their faith so passionately, then why can't we accept our own?
With regard to Christian media, maybe it is I who is not in touch with the reality on the ground. But I still maintain that we have a long, long way to go if we keep on carrying ourselves in the same way as non-believers do. Not just with regards to media, but the church all round. If at all we are to compare the way the early Church ministers lived with the manner in which modern-day Christianity is 'done,' the differences will be more than astounding. Today, the word on prosperity has been given greater weight as opposed to repentance, crucifying the flesh and dying to sin. We focus so much on amassing wealth with the notion that God wants to bless us. He does actually, but we must make seeking God our primary priority as opposed to wanting material blessings alone. Whether we get them or not, our hearts need to be content, knowing that in Him we have more than we can ask for. We need to retreat to a life of simplicity and drive our efforts to sharing the wonderful gospel with those God has entrusted us with. Instead, fame, wealth and money are what we think of and breathe. I wonder and cower in shame at what God must be thinking when he sees us doing all this.
I almost changed the title of this post because I've clearly talked more about the church and Christianity. But I've gained the insight that the media issue simply is a reflection of the standards Christianity has stooped down to. Nonetheless, there is hope. God's arms are always wide open and ready to forgive and His grace is abundant. If really we are to walk in the will of God, in what is called "taking up your cross," then we should be ready to embrace persecution, rejection, and discomfort that are connected with following Christ. We should also be ready to face ridicule and shame just as Christ did. About the media, I am of the opinion that with all the money the church (Christians) has, keeping Jesus on the airwaves should not be a problem. Then hopefully, we will not have to depend on mere mortals in the name of advertising, to stay on air. What's your take?
All I am trying to say is that complacency has slowly but surely found it's way into the church and into our hearts as Christians. "Oh, those corrupt politicians?" we say. "Heh, hao ma-pastor wa Seeds of Sin? They will burn in hell," and my favourite, "Hiyo ni kazi ya gava!" >> I am merely echoing some of the most common sentiments I have heard from fellow believers. No wonder people are shying away from the gospel! By the way, I am no religious scholar or saint above and beyond reproach. The one writing this is one who has, at many points been a hypocrite but is simply trying to live right and propagate the word to fellow mankind. As I was saying, the attitude these days, is 'that's not my work.' Self has become the priority these days. Not just in matters spiritual, but in life generally. There's alot of self-help vibe going around. Christians should know better; we have the ultimate helper in the Holy Spirit. He guides us, helps us in our day-to-day struggles and is the best companion ever. So why do we focus on ourselves so much?
Back to the matter at hand. The media that purports to be in place to spread the word of God should stick to that mandate. For instance, there is an Islamic station for instance that is committed to teaching the fundamentals of their faith and engaging faithfuls in exposition and dialogue of issues pertaining their religion. If Muslims embrace their faith so passionately, then why can't we accept our own?
With regard to Christian media, maybe it is I who is not in touch with the reality on the ground. But I still maintain that we have a long, long way to go if we keep on carrying ourselves in the same way as non-believers do. Not just with regards to media, but the church all round. If at all we are to compare the way the early Church ministers lived with the manner in which modern-day Christianity is 'done,' the differences will be more than astounding. Today, the word on prosperity has been given greater weight as opposed to repentance, crucifying the flesh and dying to sin. We focus so much on amassing wealth with the notion that God wants to bless us. He does actually, but we must make seeking God our primary priority as opposed to wanting material blessings alone. Whether we get them or not, our hearts need to be content, knowing that in Him we have more than we can ask for. We need to retreat to a life of simplicity and drive our efforts to sharing the wonderful gospel with those God has entrusted us with. Instead, fame, wealth and money are what we think of and breathe. I wonder and cower in shame at what God must be thinking when he sees us doing all this.
I almost changed the title of this post because I've clearly talked more about the church and Christianity. But I've gained the insight that the media issue simply is a reflection of the standards Christianity has stooped down to. Nonetheless, there is hope. God's arms are always wide open and ready to forgive and His grace is abundant. If really we are to walk in the will of God, in what is called "taking up your cross," then we should be ready to embrace persecution, rejection, and discomfort that are connected with following Christ. We should also be ready to face ridicule and shame just as Christ did. About the media, I am of the opinion that with all the money the church (Christians) has, keeping Jesus on the airwaves should not be a problem. Then hopefully, we will not have to depend on mere mortals in the name of advertising, to stay on air. What's your take?
Thursday, 17 October 2013
Salt and Light
"You are the salt and light of the earth. But if the salt loses its saltiness, how can it be made salty again? It is no longer good for anything, except to be thrown out and trampled by men...In the same way, let your light shine before men, that they may see your good deeds and praise your Father in heaven." ~Matthew 5:13,16.
For the past couple of months, I've been deeply racking my brain in a quest to find out what it really means to be a Christian. Different people have different ways of defining Christianity. For some, it means going to church every Sunday; For others, it's more like, "I was brought up in a Christian home, so I am a Christian"; Yet for another crop, it's that simple profession that indeed, "I am a Christian." But if the greatest book ever written is anything to go by, then we know that Christianity is more than just these claims.
I recently joined a bible study group and the book we're studying for the next couple of months is the gospel according to Matthew. Two lessons into the study and the profound truths I am learning have made me realize that I have settled into a cosy comfort zone in my faith and that I have a long way to go. With reference to the excerpt above, the entire passage is based on Christ's teachings about being the salt and light of the earth. Let me share with you some characteristics we learnt about salt (which believers should embody).
i) Salt is pure- Just as salt is pure, every believer should exemplify purity and the highest godly standards in every area of life.
ii) Salt adds flavour- You should add value to those around you and be a blessing in your community.
iii) Salt sanitizes- It stings to add salt to a wound but brings healing ultimately; In the same way, a believer should give the word of God - "that stings" - and makes those living in sin uncomfortable enough to desire to change their ways.
iv) Salt creates thirst- We should create thirst for God within those in our midst.
v) Salt is a preservative- We should preserve society and ensure our presence lowers the rate of decay (moral, spiritual, etc) in our surrounding.
In short, contamination of salt makes it lose its saltiness. As a believer, do not allow your yourself to be contaminated by all that goes against God's will for our lives. We should illuminate Christ to the world inspite of the persecution, rejection and challenges that we will face along the way.
A secret Christian is a contradiction, just like a hidden light.
This is my take: To be a believer, there is a cost, just like there is in living outside the will of God. The only difference is that the benefit of living in God far outweighs the cost. Your choice.
Be blessed.
This song puts it pretty well. (Courtesy: youtube.com)
For the past couple of months, I've been deeply racking my brain in a quest to find out what it really means to be a Christian. Different people have different ways of defining Christianity. For some, it means going to church every Sunday; For others, it's more like, "I was brought up in a Christian home, so I am a Christian"; Yet for another crop, it's that simple profession that indeed, "I am a Christian." But if the greatest book ever written is anything to go by, then we know that Christianity is more than just these claims.
I recently joined a bible study group and the book we're studying for the next couple of months is the gospel according to Matthew. Two lessons into the study and the profound truths I am learning have made me realize that I have settled into a cosy comfort zone in my faith and that I have a long way to go. With reference to the excerpt above, the entire passage is based on Christ's teachings about being the salt and light of the earth. Let me share with you some characteristics we learnt about salt (which believers should embody).
i) Salt is pure- Just as salt is pure, every believer should exemplify purity and the highest godly standards in every area of life.
ii) Salt adds flavour- You should add value to those around you and be a blessing in your community.
iii) Salt sanitizes- It stings to add salt to a wound but brings healing ultimately; In the same way, a believer should give the word of God - "that stings" - and makes those living in sin uncomfortable enough to desire to change their ways.
iv) Salt creates thirst- We should create thirst for God within those in our midst.
v) Salt is a preservative- We should preserve society and ensure our presence lowers the rate of decay (moral, spiritual, etc) in our surrounding.
In short, contamination of salt makes it lose its saltiness. As a believer, do not allow your yourself to be contaminated by all that goes against God's will for our lives. We should illuminate Christ to the world inspite of the persecution, rejection and challenges that we will face along the way.
A secret Christian is a contradiction, just like a hidden light.
This is my take: To be a believer, there is a cost, just like there is in living outside the will of God. The only difference is that the benefit of living in God far outweighs the cost. Your choice.
Be blessed.
This song puts it pretty well. (Courtesy: youtube.com)
Wednesday, 11 September 2013
22 and Counting!
1614h *Confused*
I didn't think it would be this hard. Everyone has advice about this and that. Drink, party, have fun! On the other hand, your choices will affect your tomorrow. Marriage this, marriage that. You've got to step on a few heads here and there on your way up the career ladder. My faith has it that I've got to give up the pleasures of this world to gain eternity. Break-ups, phonies, backstabbing, mood swings... Aaaaaargh! I just want to scream..these thoughts are saturating my little mind and I don't know what to do. Yet it's these things that constantly wallow in the atmosphere all around me. I can only run for so long, eih?
Grateful for my ever-supportive best friend! Love you Sly :-)
Barely 8hours to the day I commemorate my birth, and all I can do is just sit and lose my mind in thought. Who knew things would be so tough? Society has set certain timelines to achieve what is deemed normal: Degree by 24, grow career-wise over the next four years, marry by 28, baby the next year...and more after that and live happily ever after. Who wants normal anyway? Can't you just make up your own rules, make your own mistakes and pick up the pieces of yourself along the way?
Francesca Battistelli (I quote her again!) puts it so well:
"Free To Be Me"
"At twenty years of age
I'm still looking for a dream
A war's already waged
For my destiny
But you've already won the battle
And you've got great plans for me
Though I can't always see
'Cause I got a couple dents in my fender
Got a couple rips in my jeans
Try to fit the pieces together
But perfection is my enemy
On my own I'm so clumsy
But on your shoulders I can see
I'm free to be me
When I was just a girl
I thought I had it figured out
My life would turn out right
And I'd make it here somehow
But things don't always come that easy
And sometimes I would doubt
'Cause I got a couple dents in my fender...
Sometimes I believe
That I can do anything
Yet other times I think
I've got nothing good to bring
But you look at my heart and you tell me
That I've got all you seek
And it's easy to believe
Even though..."
In short, it's easy to focus on the negative yet there is so much to be thankful for. Anytime you feel tempted to whine about anything from the price of milk to the most mundane thing, just think of one good thing in your life and be thankful to God for it. Be yourself, let no one dictate the direction your life should take but be principled as well. I choose to live for God and give all that I am to him, no matter the cost. Will it be easy? No. But I'm confident he will see me through.
I too, have a crazy side...it was 'shady wear' day on campus..don't judge!
1639h
Feeling soo much better. Sometimes it seems like walking God's path is costing me lots of "friendships" but the one friend I know who'll never leave is Christ. If it means being mocked for what I stand for, let it be. Oh, the joy of salvation!
Can September 12th get here already??!
I didn't think it would be this hard. Everyone has advice about this and that. Drink, party, have fun! On the other hand, your choices will affect your tomorrow. Marriage this, marriage that. You've got to step on a few heads here and there on your way up the career ladder. My faith has it that I've got to give up the pleasures of this world to gain eternity. Break-ups, phonies, backstabbing, mood swings... Aaaaaargh! I just want to scream..these thoughts are saturating my little mind and I don't know what to do. Yet it's these things that constantly wallow in the atmosphere all around me. I can only run for so long, eih?
Barely 8hours to the day I commemorate my birth, and all I can do is just sit and lose my mind in thought. Who knew things would be so tough? Society has set certain timelines to achieve what is deemed normal: Degree by 24, grow career-wise over the next four years, marry by 28, baby the next year...and more after that and live happily ever after. Who wants normal anyway? Can't you just make up your own rules, make your own mistakes and pick up the pieces of yourself along the way?
Francesca Battistelli (I quote her again!) puts it so well:
"Free To Be Me"
"At twenty years of age
I'm still looking for a dream
A war's already waged
For my destiny
But you've already won the battle
And you've got great plans for me
Though I can't always see
'Cause I got a couple dents in my fender
Got a couple rips in my jeans
Try to fit the pieces together
But perfection is my enemy
On my own I'm so clumsy
But on your shoulders I can see
I'm free to be me
When I was just a girl
I thought I had it figured out
My life would turn out right
And I'd make it here somehow
But things don't always come that easy
And sometimes I would doubt
'Cause I got a couple dents in my fender...
Sometimes I believe
That I can do anything
Yet other times I think
I've got nothing good to bring
But you look at my heart and you tell me
That I've got all you seek
And it's easy to believe
Even though..."
In short, it's easy to focus on the negative yet there is so much to be thankful for. Anytime you feel tempted to whine about anything from the price of milk to the most mundane thing, just think of one good thing in your life and be thankful to God for it. Be yourself, let no one dictate the direction your life should take but be principled as well. I choose to live for God and give all that I am to him, no matter the cost. Will it be easy? No. But I'm confident he will see me through.
1639h
Feeling soo much better. Sometimes it seems like walking God's path is costing me lots of "friendships" but the one friend I know who'll never leave is Christ. If it means being mocked for what I stand for, let it be. Oh, the joy of salvation!
Can September 12th get here already??!
Thursday, 15 August 2013
Friendship is more than just a word...
“I think if I've learned anything about friendship, it's to hang in, stay connected, fight for them, and let them fight for you. Don't walk away, don't be distracted, don't be too busy or tired, don't take them for granted. Friends are part of the glue that holds life and faith together. Powerful stuff.”
― Jon Katz
Yeah, 4 months since I wrote. Blame it on that phenomenon called 'writers block.' So for the past 14 or so days, I've been indoors. All curled up at home with lots of movies and housework to keep me going. But the real thing that's been on my mind is this mysterious subject called friendship. Really, what is friendship? Who is a friend? How do you measure your 'level' of friendship?
Methinks that there are friends who are meant to see us through specific seasons of our lives, others are there for simple company and there are those who are meant to last for a lifetime. Of course those in the latter category usually end up being a handful. Anyway, I really do feel saddened, that these days friendship isn't what it used to be, or what it ought to be. Blame technology, careers, changing times where everyone is out there busy doing something, chasing Benjamin's baby and driving fast on the superhighway to getting rich. Is it worth it? So blinded are we that we put these material things before the thing that matters most. Love. But all the same, when you have to go to your friend's social media account to see what they have been upto and how they are fairing, then there is cause for alarm. I mean, ever been on the receiving end of silent treatment from a boyfriend or girlfriend, only to go to their Twitter/Facebook page and bamm! There lies all the answers? The emotional updates and flirty comments almost certainly let you know what course of action to take.
Benevolence, brotherhood, cordiality, good-will, camaraderie are all beautiful flowery words associated with friendship. Then why is that actual friendships today are more often than not characterized with deep silence, conniving and backstabbing mannerisms? What happened to friendship meaning something in a love relationship? For sure I've never been married, but many of those who've walked down that road state matter-of-factly that it all boils down to friendship. Feelings fade, outward beauty fades but friendship, true meaningful friendship lasts a lifetime. Not too long ago, I was privileged to interact with a renown Professor, an elderly Mzungu guy, who's been happily married to his sweetheart for a whopping 63 years. If that's not love, then I don't know what is...Even in his old age, he still opens the door for her, holds her hand and for sure they look like a couple in love who just got married. And he stated that she was not just his wife but best friend as well. (I wish all these brothers that hit on us could borrow a leaf or something!)
“You are my best friend as well as my lover, and I do not know which side of you I enjoy the most. I treasure each side, just as I have treasured our life together.”
― Nicholas Sparks, The Notebook
Nonetheless, I came with a few simple steps to building and maintaining friendships:
i) Be a friend- It's easy to point out the flaws in others but seldom recognize your own. It's that simple, be a friend first and friendship will come to you.
ii) Communicate- Call, text, tweet...in short, stay in touch. The upside of technology is that distance is just but a little gap which can be easily bridged. A simple 'hi' once in a while can go a long way in making a friendship have meaning.
iii) Remember: It takes two to tango- A friendship is always two-way. Both parties have to work hard at making it work. There's nothing as frustrating as feeling like you're in it alone. (Speaking from experience; past and current)
iv) Put God at the centre of it all- The greatest book ever written states in Ecclesiastes that a cord of 3 strands can not be easily broken. With God as the binding factor in your friendship, it will stand all storms, tests and trials.
Go out there and be a friend, I know I will!
― Jon Katz
Yeah, 4 months since I wrote. Blame it on that phenomenon called 'writers block.' So for the past 14 or so days, I've been indoors. All curled up at home with lots of movies and housework to keep me going. But the real thing that's been on my mind is this mysterious subject called friendship. Really, what is friendship? Who is a friend? How do you measure your 'level' of friendship?
Methinks that there are friends who are meant to see us through specific seasons of our lives, others are there for simple company and there are those who are meant to last for a lifetime. Of course those in the latter category usually end up being a handful. Anyway, I really do feel saddened, that these days friendship isn't what it used to be, or what it ought to be. Blame technology, careers, changing times where everyone is out there busy doing something, chasing Benjamin's baby and driving fast on the superhighway to getting rich. Is it worth it? So blinded are we that we put these material things before the thing that matters most. Love. But all the same, when you have to go to your friend's social media account to see what they have been upto and how they are fairing, then there is cause for alarm. I mean, ever been on the receiving end of silent treatment from a boyfriend or girlfriend, only to go to their Twitter/Facebook page and bamm! There lies all the answers? The emotional updates and flirty comments almost certainly let you know what course of action to take.
Benevolence, brotherhood, cordiality, good-will, camaraderie are all beautiful flowery words associated with friendship. Then why is that actual friendships today are more often than not characterized with deep silence, conniving and backstabbing mannerisms? What happened to friendship meaning something in a love relationship? For sure I've never been married, but many of those who've walked down that road state matter-of-factly that it all boils down to friendship. Feelings fade, outward beauty fades but friendship, true meaningful friendship lasts a lifetime. Not too long ago, I was privileged to interact with a renown Professor, an elderly Mzungu guy, who's been happily married to his sweetheart for a whopping 63 years. If that's not love, then I don't know what is...Even in his old age, he still opens the door for her, holds her hand and for sure they look like a couple in love who just got married. And he stated that she was not just his wife but best friend as well. (I wish all these brothers that hit on us could borrow a leaf or something!)
“You are my best friend as well as my lover, and I do not know which side of you I enjoy the most. I treasure each side, just as I have treasured our life together.”
― Nicholas Sparks, The Notebook
Nonetheless, I came with a few simple steps to building and maintaining friendships:
i) Be a friend- It's easy to point out the flaws in others but seldom recognize your own. It's that simple, be a friend first and friendship will come to you.
ii) Communicate- Call, text, tweet...in short, stay in touch. The upside of technology is that distance is just but a little gap which can be easily bridged. A simple 'hi' once in a while can go a long way in making a friendship have meaning.
iii) Remember: It takes two to tango- A friendship is always two-way. Both parties have to work hard at making it work. There's nothing as frustrating as feeling like you're in it alone. (Speaking from experience; past and current)
iv) Put God at the centre of it all- The greatest book ever written states in Ecclesiastes that a cord of 3 strands can not be easily broken. With God as the binding factor in your friendship, it will stand all storms, tests and trials.
Go out there and be a friend, I know I will!
Thursday, 28 March 2013
Never, ever, ever give up...
Hello Hello!!
I'll just begin by saying that I am grateful to be alive this beautiful morning and for the joy my Maker has put in my heart. Inspite of the moulding process He's taking me through, I'm still able to sing, laugh and love...
All the same, I just had a light-bulb moment and felt I should share this with you. A few days ago, a close friend asked me a question that totally caught me by surprise. She noted that I seemed to enjoy studying and admired the way I did it wholeheartedly (I didn't know that!). I sat down, thought about it and my mind led me down memory lane...
You see, coming from a family of smart people (Just calling a spade, a spade) academic success is something that ought to come naturally, right? Wrong. When I sat for my KCPE exams way back in '05, I was privileged to get great results, which landed me in one of the best secondary schools in Kenya...the school with rules more strict than Kenya's penitentiaries and a very distinct flyover? Anyway, to cut it short, I was somewhat over-confident in my academic abilities and my grades dwindled terribly. From top ten to bottom five in the class, that was a huge leap in the wrong direction. My parents can even attest to the fact that my report form looked like an alphabet chart...with most grades being C's and D's. There was even a time I got the lowest possible grade (E). It really affected me.
This isn't to say I didn't work hard. I did study lots, and even consulted teachers on a regular basis. Nevertheless, after doing KCSE I got a grade which I didn't like and I remember my mama consoling me for weeks on end, that everything would be okay and that I needed to move on and decide what I wanted to do. Eventually, the tears ran dry and I figured out what I wanted to do. A career that would entail lots of reading, writing, talking and human interaction. That is how I found myself doing Communication.
So, I answered my friend by letting her know that it is the drive to succeed and love for what I do that motivates me to work hard. Needless to say, failure was a word I had to eliminate from my vocabulary. It is inevitable, but not something that we should dwell on. My encouragement to you is this: If you can conceive it, you can achieve it. The only barrier to you achieving your dreams is your thoughts and capability to perceive what you can or cannot accomplish.
The future may look bleak from the view in your stained lenses, but in God's perfect view, it is brighter than you can ever imagine. All you've got to do is trust in Him, work hard and smart, surround yourself with people who build you and those you can build, and finally, set smart priorities and focus on them.
In short, Never, ever, ever give up.
I'll just begin by saying that I am grateful to be alive this beautiful morning and for the joy my Maker has put in my heart. Inspite of the moulding process He's taking me through, I'm still able to sing, laugh and love...
All the same, I just had a light-bulb moment and felt I should share this with you. A few days ago, a close friend asked me a question that totally caught me by surprise. She noted that I seemed to enjoy studying and admired the way I did it wholeheartedly (I didn't know that!). I sat down, thought about it and my mind led me down memory lane...
You see, coming from a family of smart people (Just calling a spade, a spade) academic success is something that ought to come naturally, right? Wrong. When I sat for my KCPE exams way back in '05, I was privileged to get great results, which landed me in one of the best secondary schools in Kenya...the school with rules more strict than Kenya's penitentiaries and a very distinct flyover? Anyway, to cut it short, I was somewhat over-confident in my academic abilities and my grades dwindled terribly. From top ten to bottom five in the class, that was a huge leap in the wrong direction. My parents can even attest to the fact that my report form looked like an alphabet chart...with most grades being C's and D's. There was even a time I got the lowest possible grade (E). It really affected me.
This isn't to say I didn't work hard. I did study lots, and even consulted teachers on a regular basis. Nevertheless, after doing KCSE I got a grade which I didn't like and I remember my mama consoling me for weeks on end, that everything would be okay and that I needed to move on and decide what I wanted to do. Eventually, the tears ran dry and I figured out what I wanted to do. A career that would entail lots of reading, writing, talking and human interaction. That is how I found myself doing Communication.
So, I answered my friend by letting her know that it is the drive to succeed and love for what I do that motivates me to work hard. Needless to say, failure was a word I had to eliminate from my vocabulary. It is inevitable, but not something that we should dwell on. My encouragement to you is this: If you can conceive it, you can achieve it. The only barrier to you achieving your dreams is your thoughts and capability to perceive what you can or cannot accomplish.
The future may look bleak from the view in your stained lenses, but in God's perfect view, it is brighter than you can ever imagine. All you've got to do is trust in Him, work hard and smart, surround yourself with people who build you and those you can build, and finally, set smart priorities and focus on them.
In short, Never, ever, ever give up.
Wednesday, 6 March 2013
Enough with the hypocrisy! #Elections2013
Wednesday night: 2143h
Barely 48 hours after Kenyans cast their votes in one of the most historic elections, the final results are still yet to be announced. This particular elections are unique in the sense that they are the first to be carried out since the new constitution was voted in through a referendum in the year 2010. Just a little backgrounder to what I have to say next.
The previous decades have been characterized by a large class of politicians who've engrained a certain culture in the leadership of this country and poisoned the minds of people. We have had a vast majority who engulfed this country into pools of scandals, corruption, greed, nepotism and tribalism, whereas a select few have taken bold and courageous steps to deliver this beautiful land from the rungs of the mentioned vices.
Nevertheless, it seems that we hardly ever seem to learn. In the past, Kenyans would always complain that the country lacked visionary leaders and embodiments of the biblical Joshua to lead us into the promised land. However, when they did vie for presidency, what excuses did we come up with? It's not their time, they aren't seasoned enough...blah blah blah. Hypocrisy I tell you! Truth be told, I have great respect for certain people who choose to go against the status quo and attempt to change the face of this nation's leadership:
Enter Martha Karua. A tough lady, who sticks firm to her word and had no room for impunity in her heart and in the prospective government that she would form. Then came Peter Kenneth. His track record spoke volumes and his basis for running for presidency banked on his vision to tackle issues affecting this nation, as opposed to mere ethnic claims. And there are countless others, but I'll only mention these two for now. But what have we demonstrated so far? We aren't ready for visionaries. Simple!
Secondly, another burning issue in my heart is the nature of folks on social media. Popularly known as #KOT(Kenyans On Twitter). We discuss issues, talk of a Kenya we want and preach peace like there's no tomorrow. But what do we do come election day? We vote in the same ol' peeps. I mean, if the results given so far are anything to go by. As I write this, I am seething with rage and feeling sorry for ourselves and all those who did not have an opportunity to vote, since they are under our mercy. Seriously, when you vote in someone who dismissed medical officers ruthlessly when they were simply voicing their concerns, do you expect positive change? The same person that could not handle himself during a mere television interview when ambushed by "difficult" questions? A clear lack of accountability on his part!
All the same, all is not lost as some seem to have seen the light. In my home county for instance, an Asian was voted in as Member of Parliament as opposed to someone from that particular community. Word on the ground is that the outgoing MP was arrogant albeit a hard worker. Talk about a revolution! It is evident that change cannot take place overnight but great strides toward this reality must be made.
One more thing, Kenyans. Please! Let the IEBC do their job. You may think that it's an easy thing for me to say but I know firsthand how it feels to handle a general election. Having had a family member who worked as a Returning Officer in the previous election (Gachoka constituency-for the sake of credibility), I can tell you for sure that the job is tedious. From irate contestants, to security challenges amidst other obstacles, it is not a job for the faint-hearted. How much more at the managerial level? Before we start to criticize and say all sorts of nothings on our Facebook and Twitter pages, let us first understand the dynamics of the process and the arising cases. And whatever religion you ascribe to, remember all IEBC officials in your prayers, as well as anyone else involved in these elections. They may be taking quite a while to be released, but remember the Kiswahili adage, "Haraka haraka haina baraka."
And if you or your party/candidate does not win, accept defeat in all humility and focus on building a better Kenya. Period.
Meanwhile, as we preach peace on cyberspace, let us be realistic and do the same to those with no access to it.
Have a peaceful week, won't you?
Barely 48 hours after Kenyans cast their votes in one of the most historic elections, the final results are still yet to be announced. This particular elections are unique in the sense that they are the first to be carried out since the new constitution was voted in through a referendum in the year 2010. Just a little backgrounder to what I have to say next.
The previous decades have been characterized by a large class of politicians who've engrained a certain culture in the leadership of this country and poisoned the minds of people. We have had a vast majority who engulfed this country into pools of scandals, corruption, greed, nepotism and tribalism, whereas a select few have taken bold and courageous steps to deliver this beautiful land from the rungs of the mentioned vices.
Nevertheless, it seems that we hardly ever seem to learn. In the past, Kenyans would always complain that the country lacked visionary leaders and embodiments of the biblical Joshua to lead us into the promised land. However, when they did vie for presidency, what excuses did we come up with? It's not their time, they aren't seasoned enough...blah blah blah. Hypocrisy I tell you! Truth be told, I have great respect for certain people who choose to go against the status quo and attempt to change the face of this nation's leadership:
Enter Martha Karua. A tough lady, who sticks firm to her word and had no room for impunity in her heart and in the prospective government that she would form. Then came Peter Kenneth. His track record spoke volumes and his basis for running for presidency banked on his vision to tackle issues affecting this nation, as opposed to mere ethnic claims. And there are countless others, but I'll only mention these two for now. But what have we demonstrated so far? We aren't ready for visionaries. Simple!
Secondly, another burning issue in my heart is the nature of folks on social media. Popularly known as #KOT(Kenyans On Twitter). We discuss issues, talk of a Kenya we want and preach peace like there's no tomorrow. But what do we do come election day? We vote in the same ol' peeps. I mean, if the results given so far are anything to go by. As I write this, I am seething with rage and feeling sorry for ourselves and all those who did not have an opportunity to vote, since they are under our mercy. Seriously, when you vote in someone who dismissed medical officers ruthlessly when they were simply voicing their concerns, do you expect positive change? The same person that could not handle himself during a mere television interview when ambushed by "difficult" questions? A clear lack of accountability on his part!
All the same, all is not lost as some seem to have seen the light. In my home county for instance, an Asian was voted in as Member of Parliament as opposed to someone from that particular community. Word on the ground is that the outgoing MP was arrogant albeit a hard worker. Talk about a revolution! It is evident that change cannot take place overnight but great strides toward this reality must be made.
One more thing, Kenyans. Please! Let the IEBC do their job. You may think that it's an easy thing for me to say but I know firsthand how it feels to handle a general election. Having had a family member who worked as a Returning Officer in the previous election (Gachoka constituency-for the sake of credibility), I can tell you for sure that the job is tedious. From irate contestants, to security challenges amidst other obstacles, it is not a job for the faint-hearted. How much more at the managerial level? Before we start to criticize and say all sorts of nothings on our Facebook and Twitter pages, let us first understand the dynamics of the process and the arising cases. And whatever religion you ascribe to, remember all IEBC officials in your prayers, as well as anyone else involved in these elections. They may be taking quite a while to be released, but remember the Kiswahili adage, "Haraka haraka haina baraka."
And if you or your party/candidate does not win, accept defeat in all humility and focus on building a better Kenya. Period.
Meanwhile, as we preach peace on cyberspace, let us be realistic and do the same to those with no access to it.
Have a peaceful week, won't you?
Thursday, 28 February 2013
After Monday, what next?
Forgive my prolonged silence, so much has been happening..it's almost overwhelming. But here we are and thank the Lord for that. Of course at the moment, almost every daily, blog and timeline is abuzz with the election fever and speculation as to which candidate will bag the top seat in our beloved motherland Kenya. Likewise, the message of peace has been preached like never before, as no one definitely wants to go back to the dark period in 07-08 where people slaughtered each other mercilessly and clouds of hate and bitterness rent the atmosphere.
The steps and measures which Kenyans have taken this time to emphasize the gospel of peace are quite commendable. Nevertheless, something deeply worries me. The vigor with which we preach peace on social media and the internet is definitely something. But what about the thousands on the ground who barely have anything to eat let alone afford the luxury of the internet? What about those young ones that have been brought up knowing nothing but violence and tribal strife as a way of life? Sure it is hypocritical of me to be saying this 3 days prior to the D-day...but a different perspective can do no harm once in a while. After we go to the polls on March 4th, life will go on. I will continue being a student, and you will keep doing what you do. So, the choice is yours.
Honestly, I've got nothing more to say other than the obvious: Ensure you vote, vote wisely and preach peace. Not just to your virtual friends on cyberspace but with every single person you come across: the Mama Mbogas, the kiosk owners...and every living breathing being. Remember, in God's eyes we are all equal. Some may have positions of influence and power, but at the end of the day, we are just but human beings with red blood flowing in our veins and made by the same Creator.
That said, have a wonderful and peaceful year ahead!
The steps and measures which Kenyans have taken this time to emphasize the gospel of peace are quite commendable. Nevertheless, something deeply worries me. The vigor with which we preach peace on social media and the internet is definitely something. But what about the thousands on the ground who barely have anything to eat let alone afford the luxury of the internet? What about those young ones that have been brought up knowing nothing but violence and tribal strife as a way of life? Sure it is hypocritical of me to be saying this 3 days prior to the D-day...but a different perspective can do no harm once in a while. After we go to the polls on March 4th, life will go on. I will continue being a student, and you will keep doing what you do. So, the choice is yours.
Honestly, I've got nothing more to say other than the obvious: Ensure you vote, vote wisely and preach peace. Not just to your virtual friends on cyberspace but with every single person you come across: the Mama Mbogas, the kiosk owners...and every living breathing being. Remember, in God's eyes we are all equal. Some may have positions of influence and power, but at the end of the day, we are just but human beings with red blood flowing in our veins and made by the same Creator.
That said, have a wonderful and peaceful year ahead!
Friday, 25 January 2013
The Rise of Narcissism
“I am in love with you', I responded.
He laughed the most beguiling and gentle laugh.
'Of course you are,' he replied. 'I understand perfectly because I'm in love with myself. The fact that I'm not transfixed in front of the nearest mirror takes a great deal of self-control.'
It was my turn to laugh.”
― Anne Rice
According to dictionary.reference.com, Narcissism is defined as the inordinate fascination with oneself, excessive self-love and a great extent of ego-centrism. A more detailed definition elucidates it as the erotic gratification derived from admiration of one's own physical or mental attributes.
The word "Narcissism" was coined from Narcissus, a character from an ancient Greek myth. The story goes, that Narcissus, a handsome young man was the son of river god Cephisus and nymph Lyriope. He was known for his beauty and loved by god Apollo due to his extraordinary physique. However, this handsome young man was not only proud, but selfish as well. In fact, so self-absorbed was he, that he rejected all his male suitors and did not think anyone was good enough for him. One time, Aminias, a male suitor expressed his love for Narcissus, but like all the rest, he was rejected. Heartbroken, crushed and dejected, Aminias killed himself at Narcissus' doorstep, crying out to the gods to punish the man he once loved for all the pain he had evoked.
One day, as Narcissus was taking a walk, he passed by a river to drink some water. On seeing his reflection, he fell in love with his beauty and became entranced by it. He was so obsessed with himself and remained there for the rest of his life dazed at his beauty. Unfortunately, he was sorrowful and lonely, and eventually died out of his misery.
Today, the story is no different. Fashion magazines and reality TV shows constantly tell us to change this, change that, love yourself above all...it goes on and on. The love of self in this day and age is adulated almost more than anything. Over the years, advertisers have used and still continue to use this undertone to promote products and services, i.e. to be accepted, get a nose job. For you to be beautiful, get that outfit. If you really wanna fit it in, buy those shoes (which cost more than half of your salary by the way). Sadly, so self-absorbed are we, that we find ourselves drowning in a myriad of fads which promise a lifetime of happiness and acceptance only if we ascribe to them. But all it does is leave us as hollow as an abyss and yearning for something so great and beyond our reach.
Narcissism has indeed carved its niche in the lives of people today. How do we know this? Simple! People's actions more often than not leave alot to be desired. It's a me-me-me world out there. And no, 'survival for the fittest' should be no excuse for being smug, vain and self-centered. What happened to the days when everyone was everyone's keeper? What happened to chivalry? What happened to courtesy? It barely takes a minute to say sorry, excuse me or thank you. But no, we don't have time for anyone else since we are too much in a hurry to get to who-knows-where.
Classic example: My next-door neighbors' repugnant mannerisms (Don't worry I'm 99.9% sure they aren't reading this...and if they are, the better!). These peeps moved in about 4 months ago and believe you me, this once quiet neighborhood has only been turned into an eerily noisy place akin to barbarism. I mean, who wakes up early (5am) on a Sunday/Monday morning, cursing at the top of their lungs and banging things on the wall as if there's no tomorrow? Anyway, we eventually figured out that it was indeed not a home but a business premise; illegal according to City Council by-laws as it was located in a residential area. So we gently approached these people asking them to be sensitive and wary of the fact that actual human beings (with feelings, families and babies) were living in the vicinity. My oh my, it only seemed to make things worse as the next day they were awake in the wee hours of the morning, and their conversation, more like yelling actually, was only too decorated in profanity and other unmentionables. By Jove!
If only these recalcitrant people weren't too absorbed in themselves. I could vent and vent for ages but that won't solve anything. My point is this: Man is a social being. It's no coincidence that we live with 6 billion plus people on this earth, therefore interaction is inevitable. There is so much power in togetherness, in team work, in unity. When you take the focus off yourself, and see the beauty in other people, you will ultimately find this rewarding.
Finally, some of the richest people aren't necessarily those with the most money or wealth. They are the ones who invest the lives of others with all sincerity and passion. If you doubt this, ask any genuine Sunday School teacher or lecturer.
He laughed the most beguiling and gentle laugh.
'Of course you are,' he replied. 'I understand perfectly because I'm in love with myself. The fact that I'm not transfixed in front of the nearest mirror takes a great deal of self-control.'
It was my turn to laugh.”
― Anne Rice
According to dictionary.reference.com, Narcissism is defined as the inordinate fascination with oneself, excessive self-love and a great extent of ego-centrism. A more detailed definition elucidates it as the erotic gratification derived from admiration of one's own physical or mental attributes.
The word "Narcissism" was coined from Narcissus, a character from an ancient Greek myth. The story goes, that Narcissus, a handsome young man was the son of river god Cephisus and nymph Lyriope. He was known for his beauty and loved by god Apollo due to his extraordinary physique. However, this handsome young man was not only proud, but selfish as well. In fact, so self-absorbed was he, that he rejected all his male suitors and did not think anyone was good enough for him. One time, Aminias, a male suitor expressed his love for Narcissus, but like all the rest, he was rejected. Heartbroken, crushed and dejected, Aminias killed himself at Narcissus' doorstep, crying out to the gods to punish the man he once loved for all the pain he had evoked.
One day, as Narcissus was taking a walk, he passed by a river to drink some water. On seeing his reflection, he fell in love with his beauty and became entranced by it. He was so obsessed with himself and remained there for the rest of his life dazed at his beauty. Unfortunately, he was sorrowful and lonely, and eventually died out of his misery.
Today, the story is no different. Fashion magazines and reality TV shows constantly tell us to change this, change that, love yourself above all...it goes on and on. The love of self in this day and age is adulated almost more than anything. Over the years, advertisers have used and still continue to use this undertone to promote products and services, i.e. to be accepted, get a nose job. For you to be beautiful, get that outfit. If you really wanna fit it in, buy those shoes (which cost more than half of your salary by the way). Sadly, so self-absorbed are we, that we find ourselves drowning in a myriad of fads which promise a lifetime of happiness and acceptance only if we ascribe to them. But all it does is leave us as hollow as an abyss and yearning for something so great and beyond our reach.
Narcissism has indeed carved its niche in the lives of people today. How do we know this? Simple! People's actions more often than not leave alot to be desired. It's a me-me-me world out there. And no, 'survival for the fittest' should be no excuse for being smug, vain and self-centered. What happened to the days when everyone was everyone's keeper? What happened to chivalry? What happened to courtesy? It barely takes a minute to say sorry, excuse me or thank you. But no, we don't have time for anyone else since we are too much in a hurry to get to who-knows-where.
Classic example: My next-door neighbors' repugnant mannerisms (Don't worry I'm 99.9% sure they aren't reading this...and if they are, the better!). These peeps moved in about 4 months ago and believe you me, this once quiet neighborhood has only been turned into an eerily noisy place akin to barbarism. I mean, who wakes up early (5am) on a Sunday/Monday morning, cursing at the top of their lungs and banging things on the wall as if there's no tomorrow? Anyway, we eventually figured out that it was indeed not a home but a business premise; illegal according to City Council by-laws as it was located in a residential area. So we gently approached these people asking them to be sensitive and wary of the fact that actual human beings (with feelings, families and babies) were living in the vicinity. My oh my, it only seemed to make things worse as the next day they were awake in the wee hours of the morning, and their conversation, more like yelling actually, was only too decorated in profanity and other unmentionables. By Jove!
If only these recalcitrant people weren't too absorbed in themselves. I could vent and vent for ages but that won't solve anything. My point is this: Man is a social being. It's no coincidence that we live with 6 billion plus people on this earth, therefore interaction is inevitable. There is so much power in togetherness, in team work, in unity. When you take the focus off yourself, and see the beauty in other people, you will ultimately find this rewarding.
Finally, some of the richest people aren't necessarily those with the most money or wealth. They are the ones who invest the lives of others with all sincerity and passion. If you doubt this, ask any genuine Sunday School teacher or lecturer.
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